Picking Up Girls

As most guys have probably figured out, picking up girls isn’t nearly as easy as it sounds. Unfortunately, the best advice out there for picking up girls is to “just talk to them.” As it turns out, girls like to talk. They even like to talk to guys, and they like it even more when those two things come together. This isn’t as common as it may seem, since most guys are like you: talking to attractive women is scary to them.

This is understandable. Most of us get nervous when we start talking to women, and especially when we talk to attractive women. Since we’re so focused on making a good impression, we stop listening to what they’re saying and only focus on what we’re going to say next. This leads to us stupid blunders and losing track of the conversation. To compensate, we usually focus the conversation on ourselves, boring the ladies and turning them off. This is a lousy strategy for picking up girls.

Regardless of how you meet them or what they look like, the most important factor in your success is your conversational skills. The biggest change you need to make in order to start picking up girls is to learn how to talk to them. Fortunately, this isn’t nearly as difficult as it may sound. Though they may seem like another species, girls are not all that different from guys, especially when it comes to casual conversation. They have hobbies, preferences in films and music, and topics they’re always excited to talk about, just like guys do.

Of course, in order to have a good conversation with a girl, you’re going to have to break the ice. The difficulty with starting conversations has spawned a whole breed of pick up lines, most of them something terrible like “Do you have a quarter? I told my mom I’d call her when I found the perfect woman.” Though these can occasionally work if they’re pulled off with the proper amount of irony, they can also earn you a slap in the face.

Instead, try starting a conversation naturally with something like “Hi” or “How are you?” Look for natural topics of conversation like the band onstage or her unique earrings. Once you start a conversation, listen to what she has to say and don’t spend a lot of time thinking about what you’re going to say next. If you focus on what she’s saying, the proper responses will come naturally. This will lead to an easy, natural conversation, and you’ll be on your way in no time.